The moment where children become the caregivers rather than just ‘the kids’ can happen at any time. Being prepared for this can help soften the blow and limit any negative repercussions. Below you’ll find a few vital questions you would do well to ask yourself and your extended family to better prepare for the future.
What Legacy Is There to Leave?
All too often, a family member passes away and the family realizes how little they knew about the individual’s life. a mass of knowledge, experience and memories is then lost to time. Some grandparents may not want to bother the younger generations with their stories, but these can be extremely valuable.
Sharing these experiences can also add value to seniors’ later years, knowing that they’re leaving behind a legacy. Why not organize a special day where family members ask questions like:
- Describe the best moment of your life
- How did technology impact you?
- Name the top five life tips you wish you could give your younger self
- What was your proudest moment?
- What do you hope people will remember about you?
- Describe school, fashion and hobbies from your youth.
Use these insights to compile a short biography of their life, which is something you can pass on to younger generations.
Who Will Sign Off On Legal Matters?
The possibility of an individual no longer being able to make decisions is an unfortunate reality. Even before there are any signs of dementia or other cognitive dysfunction, talk to seniors in your family about a power of attorney. This can cover legal, medical or financial matters.
Discuss an arrangement and a lawyer can draw up an agreement that suits your situation, so caregiving children can step in whenever it becomes necessary.
Can You Really Be a Caretaker?
This question applies to both elderly individuals and their children. Elderly individuals must realize when it becomes time to relinquish control of their lives to someone else. This doesn’t always have to be their children, especially if the younger families don’t have the resources, space, finances or time to effectively care for them. This is where quality care homes become valuable resources. Look for professional staffing agencies that partner with companies like Diligence International Group to run background checks on prospective employees.
Is There a Will In Place?
Surprisingly, statistics show that 40% of people in their 50’s and 60’s may not yet have a will. This may cause problems for those left behind when an elderly parent passes away. The division of assets can cause family feuds, or lead to situations where the family must adhere to state guidelines about how the property is dealt with, rather than the personal wishes of the deceased. It can be traumatic to think about the reality of a loved one’s passing, but it’s essential you make sure a will is in place. Have the conversation for everyone’s benefit.
It may be difficult to ask these questions, but in hindsight, you’ll be glad you did it. Take action now to pave the way for a better future for everyone in your family.