By Doug Fusella, New LifeStyles
Every day, we humans wake to face a day full of decisions and responsibilities. These can range from changing the burned out light bulb in the den to making decisions about the well-being of a parent of loved one. While the ramifications of making excuses to put the changing of the light bulb off for a few days are minor, maybe some low light and sniping comments from your spouse, the consequences of putting of much needed decisions in regard to your housing or care needs or those of your parent or loved one can be far reaching for all involved, including putting one’s health at risk.
The decisions regarding senior housing and care can include the following:
1) Deciding that your house of many years and memories is too much to maintain and/or afford and looking into an active adult community.
2) Heeding the warning signs that you see at your parents’ residence and initiating serious conversations about moving to an assisted living community or hiring a home health agency to alleviate fears and give needed assistance to those that need it.
3) Separating a couple to make sure that one is getting proper care for conditions such as Alzheimer’s when staying together would cause issues for both parents.
All of these situations call for tough decisions and possible conflict. Most of us, by nature, try to avoid conflict whenever possible. We justify putting off decisions and change by using such excuses as being too busy, feeling guilty that we cannot solve things ourselves, not wanting to upset the family during the holidays or convincing ourselves that Mom is just having a bad day and will be better tomorrow.
How do we push through these roadblocks? How do we overcome guilt? How do we initiate conversations that we know will lead to conflict?
Here are just a few suggestions, the more you open up and discuss, the more suggestions you might hear to help:
These decisions are very tough, emotional and life-changing. Start addressing as early as possible, involve experts, conversation (forums are a great community resource) and lots of research. Sympathize with all angles, but do the best for those involved, not matter how tough the process may seem. Your actions will ensure the highest quality of life for ALL involved.
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